You are as close to God as you choose to be. Like any friendship you must work at developing your friendship with God. You must learn to honestly share your feelings with him when he asks you to do something, learn to care about what he cares about, and desire his friendship more that anything else.
Complete honesty about your faults and your feelings. God doesn't expect you to be perfet, but he does insist on complete honesty.
Bitterness is the greatest barrier to friendship with God. To be God's friend, you must be honest to God, sharing your true feelings not what you think you ought to feel or say. Releasing your resentment and revealing your feeling is the first step to healing. Expressing doubt is sometimes the first step toward the next level of intimacy with God.
*I must choose to obey God in faith.
Every time you trust God's wisdom and do whatever he says, even when you don't understand it, you deepen your friendship with God. We obey God, not out of duty or fear or compulsion , but because we love him and trust that he knows what is best for us. We follow Christ out of gratitude for all he has done for us, and the closer we follow him, the deeper our friendship becomes.
God is more please when we do small things for him out of loving obedience. Great opportunities may come once in a lifetime, but small opportunities surround us every day. Even though such simple acts as telling the truth, being kind, and encouraging others, we bring a smile to God's face.
It's better to obey than to sacrifice.
*I must choose to value what God values.
*I must desire friendship with God more than anything else.
The more you become God's friend, the more you will care about the things he cares about.Intimate friendship with God is a choice, not an accident. You must intentionally seek it.
Pain is the fuel of passion- it energizes us with an intensity to change that we don't normally possess. C.S. Lewis said, "Pain is God's megaphone."
YOUR MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP
-There is nothing absolutely nothing more important than developing a friendship with God. It's a relationship that will last forever.
--I'm as close to God as I choose to be.